tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post2252700980650282644..comments2023-12-09T17:01:39.079-08:00Comments on Past Tense, Present Progressive: Teaching My Son the Lessons I Didn't LearnLatebloomerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18261932798380141520noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-60354835107840463972016-04-14T07:11:44.816-07:002016-04-14T07:11:44.816-07:00I had a similar upbringing as you. I am in my 30s...I had a similar upbringing as you. I am in my 30s and I have just pulled my 3rd grade son out of school, after many different schools and countless IEP meetings, to homeschool him. He is diagnosed as ADHD/Autism but medicine makes things worse for him. He is very happy and more relaxed and is finally making progress. I am confident that this is the best environment for him at this time for him. However, I am at a loss on how to integrate him socially with others. When he was younger he would often get along with adults and he was so cute and funny. Now, when he says his odd comments in inappropriate places, we are both looked at disdainfully. Thankfully, we have our 4 year old daughter/sister who is a shining star academically and socially. She saves my son from being too lost in his own mind and forces him to relate to somebody else. However, my son alienates himself from other parents and children because he is seen as too rough, inappropriate, rude, etc. My son makes me look like I'm a bad mother. My daughter makes me look like I'm an amazing mother. So I try to focus on the balance of it all. But I am alone. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-61986179137301171752016-02-20T23:51:21.617-08:002016-02-20T23:51:21.617-08:00Personally, I am 'new' to the game of heal...Personally, I am 'new' to the game of healing. I recently descovered that I have that issue of supressed emotions, as a childhood herritage. I live in a place that society did not grow up to value or accept emotions, and it is not easy to find that the problem exists. As your article states, for me it started with being a mother of 2. I am happy to read you are directing youir kids to emotional freedom and emotional inteligence. I try too, but unfortunately I am not cured... I hope I will do it fast enough. Happy that I found your blog. Good luck to you all. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14778749944512087649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-72331729413384826992015-04-29T19:31:10.819-07:002015-04-29T19:31:10.819-07:00So much of what you describe is so familiar to me....So much of what you describe is so familiar to me. I was also homeschooled in northern california in the 80s. I remember the intense isolation and boredom. Im also raising a young son and experiencing emotional flashbacks (and some memory laden ones as well). Thanks for blogging this. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974874712205783084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-12548845863867152162013-08-02T20:44:24.145-07:002013-08-02T20:44:24.145-07:00Same here--I always associated the concept of flas...Same here--I always associated the concept of flashbacks with vividly re-living a single traumatic experience, which I have not had. But it turns out that flashbacks can be just emotional too. <br /><br />I guess another phrase to describe the experience would be "emotional regression." For me, I very quickly sink into depression, despair, and helplessness as if I were completely alone and friendless again, like in my teens. Sometimes it's triggered by a few days of no adult interaction, and sometimes it's triggered by a minor personal social failure. But at least now I can recognize that the emotions are a huuuuge over-reaction to my present situation, and can more easily find something positive to focus on to pull myself out of it. <br /><br />Since writing this post, I've come across a psych website that describes my experience fairly well: http://www.pete-walker.com/flashbackManagement.htm. It might describe your experience too. Latebloomerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18261932798380141520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-31874067474930363942013-08-01T14:22:11.257-07:002013-08-01T14:22:11.257-07:00If you are okay with it, I think it would be helpf...If you are okay with it, I think it would be helpful for many of us to hear more about emotional flashbacks from a fellow homeschool survivor's perspective. I had never heard of the concept before, but I've started to realize that I have had them a lot without knowing that's what was happening. I used to think flashbacks were only remembering specific events and that people only had them if they had been through something really traumatic. But living in nearly complete isolation throughout childhood and the teen years is traumatic in a way. <br /><br />-AlysonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-70886967555557908832013-05-18T20:31:37.305-07:002013-05-18T20:31:37.305-07:00Great post! Feeling like we're understood -- o...Great post! Feeling like we're understood -- or at the very least, heard -- is such an important thing for all of us to feel. I feel very strongly about making sure my daughter feels this too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-22361899537229324222013-05-14T12:06:10.694-07:002013-05-14T12:06:10.694-07:00Wonderful post! So happy to be part of your journe...Wonderful post! So happy to be part of your journey. Love you! Proud of you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com