tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post1032262767292436710..comments2023-12-09T17:01:39.079-08:00Comments on Past Tense, Present Progressive: "Biblical" Parenting, Criticism #2: An Extremely Controlling ParentLatebloomerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18261932798380141520noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-83400235989926473422021-12-26T22:50:23.793-08:002021-12-26T22:50:23.793-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Expert_servicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17938809005001806713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-26914793725484468722012-10-08T21:13:32.736-07:002012-10-08T21:13:32.736-07:00I'm so encouraged to hear that you have been a...I'm so encouraged to hear that you have been able to develop an open and trusting relationship with your teens even after being raised in an authoritarian environment yourself. Good for you for turning your pain in strength! I hope I'll be able to do that as well.Latebloomerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18261932798380141520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2229462780883907840.post-1122926637652251532012-09-16T10:13:38.854-07:002012-09-16T10:13:38.854-07:00I have to agree that extreme authority, and fear d...I have to agree that extreme authority, and fear does make you vulnerable. When you are never given the option of questioning, having answers, learning basic things from life? When you are asked to respect and obey other adults, and those you 'feel' are in authority? <br /><br />YET you are told some people are bad, and you are afraid to make that decision that they are because your whole upbringing is based in doubt? You ARE set up for failure, and additional hurt and abuse. You walk right into it, because of your lack of ability to discern.<br /><br />You never feel strong, self confident, etc. You always second guess yourself. Why? You were 'trained' to do that. You lost your ability to know what ends up from early on.<br /><br />Heck I remember being an adult, having my own home, supporting myself, etc and still having this abnormal fear that I would get in trouble if something wasn't just 'so' from my parents. Fear of the belt? It blows my mind just thinking of it.<br /><br />It seems to me that they feel you are to naturally just 'snap out of it' at some stage. Which of course contradicts the basis of the upbringing tactics 100%.<br /><br />I have two teenagers today. They talk to me about all kinds of things, and admit things I never would have spoken about at all. Matter of fact I doubt I would have ever done some of things they have due to fear. I have to admit their openness tends to blow me away even today. Its good - its healthy of course. I guess I just get blown away by their lack of fear towards life. <br /><br />Fear over silly things silly haunt me to this day at times. I will always strive to do better, but something tells me it will always pop its ugly head up from time to time.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.com